1938 vs Modern Day-Relationships!!
So today I got entranced by an article I read about the advice given to women about relationships in 1938 and it made me think a bout how much life really has/has not changed. In fact some of the advice given would probably make for a better relationship (ironically).
It seems that us “females” have become more experienced at letting our emotions show as well as constant public displays of affection. Now whether this is a good thing or bad thing I thought I would compare 1938 with the Modern Day and see which ones have actually changed and which we might be able to benefit from. Let’s see which is better bring on the late 30’s vs 2013!!
First off we have the the famous:
Don’t drink too much
In the modern day the concept of not drinking too much in front of guys has gone completely out of the window. I mean correct me if I am wrong but most first dates nowadays start with going for a drink in a bar or going for dinner (which you are bound to have an alcoholic beverage with- unless you do not drink) this is not because you are an alcoholic, but because alcohol famously calms you down when you are nervous. Ok yes if you get so drunk that you start slurring and falling all over the place it is definitely going to put a guy off…or is it?? I swear the easiest way to hook up with a guy in 2013 is by going to a pub/club and getting blindly drunk and going home with someone, granted this does not lead to a long term relationship (only in very special circumstances).
I also never knew that some girls get clever with alcohol-I know that sometimes due to alcohol I feel clever, but it normally means that I end up spouting some crap that actually coming across incredibly thick!
I think the Modern Day teaching definitely has the edge over this one, as it tends to be the slightly drunk females that take the guy home. If the 1930’s had changed the saying to ‘Don’t Drink so much that you are Paralytic’ than the 30’s would have won (but they did not) Modern Day -1 1930’s -0!
The second piece of advice given in the 1930’s:
Do your dressing in the boudoir to keep your allure. Be ready to go when your date arrives; don’t keep him waiting. Greet him with a smile.
Now yes sometimes there is a slight appeal in getting ready for a night out with the boy and not letting him see you until you look amazing. Although this has gone slightly. There is more allure, in 2013, in taking the clothes off in front of a man rather than making sure your clothes are on. Plus I am pretty sure instead of smiling, we pose and do our best ‘I look sexy’ face for the guy. Also the concept of being ready when your date arrives has been swapped with: Keep him waiting as long as possible because the longer he waits the more excited he will get. I highly doubt that there is any girl out there who will be completely ready by the time he arrives and if they are it means they have planned the entire day to make sure that they look irresistible-you can guarantee there have been bubble baths/manicures etc.
There is something special about making a guy wait for you, it increases the suspense-im afraid that means only one thing Modern Day- 2 and 1930’s-0.
Third golden nugget from our ancestors is:
If you need a brassiere, wear one. Don’t tug at your girdle, and be careful your stockings are not wrinkled.
Our Ancestors from the 1930’s would have a fit-not only do we never have un-wrinkled stockings but we also walk around wearing ripped tights as a fashion. We all wear bra’s most of the time and what the hell is a girdle??? Nowadays we have shape wear/granny panties or thongs?!
Perhaps if we held the same fashion guidelines from the 1930’s now aways, we would have a much neater appearance- but we would also all look like prudes and nuns!
I’m sorry 1930’s it’s Modern World 3-19.30’s-0!
The fourth commandment is:
Don’t talk about clothes or try and describe your new gown to a man. Please and flatter your date by talking about the things he wants to talk about.
Well it is a well-known fact that most men hate shopping with woman, so I am sure they would hate us talking about our clothes just as much. However I am also pretty sure that nowadays men are more attracted to independent women who don’t try to hard. Perhaps you could say that if you please and flatter a guy than it blows up his ego, and men even to this day, love a good ego boost…finally the 1930’s are starting to become more familiar to the modern world.
Modern World-3 and finally 1930’s-1!!!
The next is so common:
Don’t be sentimental or try to get him to say something he doesn’t want to by working on his emotions. Men don’t like tears, especially in public places.
Well this is definitely exactly the same as the modern world. Men hate when women show negative emotions especially in public. Immediately they get very self aware and start to react either by walking away or shouting back. I have noticed that if any man thinks you are about to get teary then they will immediately do anything to prevent the crying.
The 1930’s are catching up with 2 vs The Modern World with 3!!
This one is the best by far:
Careless women never appeal to gentlemen. Don’t talk while dancing, for when a man wants to dance he wants to dance.
Haha I do not think I have ever seen a man so involved within dance that he does not communicate with everyone around him. Surely most clubs are about talking and dancing, they are not just silent as soon as you hit the dance floor. Perhaps we have changed, instead of the 1930’s where you had to wait to be asked to dance and then you silently waltzed around the hall we now actually have LOUD clubs where you can not hear yourself thinking because of the amount of raucous music and talking.
Modern world-4 and the 1930’s still 2.
And to save the best for last:
Don’t be familiar with your escort by carressing him in public. Any open show of affection is in bad taste, usually embarrasses himh or humiliates.
Now this I wish was true nowadays, there is nothing more sickening than a couple who are all over each other in public. The amount of times I have wanted to hit them and say something, and this is coming from someone who is happily in a relationship!! Nowadays I do not think it embarrasses guys if anything it makes them feel more confident about themselves. Plus you see it all the time all over the clubs adn streets of london after a particular time all the drunk couples emerge with their hands all over each other.
This I think depends on you as the individual. If you are content with couples smooching and getting it on in front of you everywhere you go then you are very much a Modern World individual, if on the other hand you are like me and think that they should keep their hands off one another-1 little peck or holding hands is fine but when it is full on making out then think of the people around you!
Personally I am going to give this one to the 1930’s!
All in all there is quite a lot about the modern world that is different to the 1930’s, and there is no question about it that we are much more open to exposure nowadays. In the past the right impression was everything and that meant the correct behaviour was needed. Where as now we might be happy to parade around with ripped tights and making out in public, if this kind of thing happened in the 1930’s they would not only be completely shunned from society but they were bound to live a very difficult unsuitable life.
It does make me wonder what my relatives would have thought if they were here now!!
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